After years of working jobs that always seemed to be missing a few critical qualities within the organizational culture, I finally landed the perfect job. This role allowed me to conveniently work within my area of passion and expertise, while also paying me a very comfortable salary. Most importantly, I was given the space and vote of confidence to lead and serve without micromanagement! Can I get an amen?
To be in a place where I am not looking for the next opportunity. Where I am content, happy, and fulfilled is a strange feeling. Why? Because it is not my nature.
A friend recently told me that I am un-satisfiable. That is to say, that in almost every area of my life I tend to find myself overly concerned about what to do next or how to experience more growth. On paper, this is a very beneficial trait of mine, which has allowed me to achieve my current level of success. However, it often places me in a state of discontentment, where I am constantly having a mid-life crisis in my mind. (I am thirty btw, so nowhere near mid-life - GOD willing)
Enter Lauren Bolden (Lascelles). When my wife and I got married I was in the middle of a major transition. After studying and planning to work as a full-time pastor, I had informed her that God was calling me to a different occupation where I would have the opportunity to fully operate within my purpose. She was onboard. After over a year of praying, applying, and being denied, I finally got a job in the field I felt I was being called to serve. Fast forward a few months into the role and there I was again thinking about what to do next.
Trying her best to be supportive, she indulged my constant dreaming and brainstorming about an EVEN MORE ideal role for myself. But she also made it a point of emphasis to point out a fundamental flaw in my maturation as a man and her husband. In my pursuit of happiness, I was forming a habit that would ultimately never allow me to arrive at the aforementioned destination. She knew that if I continued to build my life this way we would never feel settled and maximize the potential opportunities we were given.
Her honesty was exactly what I needed and further illustrated why God gave her to me as a wife. Her ability to find joy and contentment in the patterns of life eventually became the object lesson I would use to build a life balance. Valuing the variables of the hustle and grind while also finding peace and purpose in daily repetition.
This is a lesson I'm still learning. I have not arrived, and likely never will. But what I am attempting to learn is that movement does not always mean I am progressing. Sometimes where we are is EXACTLY where we need to be, even when the "new thing" comes with more money, seems more exciting, or better aligns with our personal preferences or personality.
Every "good thing" is not always good for YOU. Most of us find ourselves in bad situations because we fail to properly analyze whether or not we are ready for a transition. My hope for myself and for anyone else reading this blog post is that we learn to value the joy of today over the unknowns of tomorrow.